I’ve had a lot people tell me how lucky I am lately. Lucky to be where I am at this stage in life, to have (mostly) well-adjusted kids, to have the things that I have…

Yeah, well, I’ve worked really hard to be this lucky.

It appears some people believe that the next person’s life is somehow charmed in a way theirs isn’t. That those other people have all the good fortune. If you look deeper, you’ll see that most of the time luck had nothing to do with it.

People gooseneck over the white picket fence into their neighbor’s greener pasture about a lot of things.  Money, jobs, promotions, raises, success (however defined), even relationships.

Luck is for cartoon cereal box characters and suckers.
Luck is for cartoon cereal box characters.

Okay, yes, sometimes someone is in the right place, at the right time, with the right whatever in their possession. But, if you’re sitting around waiting for THAT to happen…well, good luck to you.

I’m also not going to deny that there is classism, racism, sexism, and a whole host of other –isms and nasty named things that are real and that affect a person’s rise to the froth at the top. That’s not what this is about. I’m talking about taking control of what we can.

The doors seem to open a lot wider as soon as we stop blaming others for our lot in life and take responsibility. (Believe me, I know.) Whatever I have right now in my life, I have made it so. Bad or good. That’s a hard thing to face if you’re not happy with what you’ve brought in (or failed to bring in.) The good news is that going forward it’s still up to you!

Maybe I’ll address some specifics later. For now, I’ll just say: you get from life what you put into it. We can all make the path we dreamed we’d take. It just takes focus and effort.

Be grateful for what you have and know that “luck” probably had nothing to do with it.